This book explains violent and abusive behaviour and places it in a social context. It can help readers of any age and sexual orientation to change their own behaviour and to recognise when they are being controlled. "I can honestly say that without reading this book (9 times no less !) I don't think that I would be here today, relaxed in my own home with my children that I love so much."
What does it mean to be a conservative in an age so sceptical of conservatism? How can we live in the presence of our 'canonized forefathers' at a time when their cultural, religious and political bequest is so routinely rejected? With soft left-liberalism as the dominant force in Western politics, what can conservatives now contribute to public debate that will not be dismissed as pure nostalgia? In this highly personal and witty book, renowned philosopher Roger Scruton explains how to live as a conservative in spite of the pressures to exist otherwise. Drawing on his own experience as a counter-cultural presence in public life, Scruton argues that while humanity might survive in the absence of the conservative outlook, it certainly wont flourish.
The Freedom Programme
Author: Pat Craven
Publisher: Freedom Publishing (CA)
Many women who are subjected to abuse from their partners or children do not understand what is happening to them. The do not need therapy but they do need the information they are given when they attend the Freedom Programme. This is a rolling group work course which informs and empowers women in this situation. It can also help to identify warning signs in a new relationship. It also explains how children are affected by domestic abuse and how their lives can improve after the abuser is removed. also It must be used in conjunction with Pat Craven's book 'Living with the Dominator'. This manual contains details instructions on how to facilitate the Freedom Programme which is based upon the author's experience in working with violent offenders when she was a probation officer in the UK. "I love life now thanks to the Freedom Programme ." "Our lives are so much better now Mummy " "Life is looking good again thanks to the Freedom Programme." "I know I can succeed in my life now. I have found two new social work positions and I love being a working emancipated mother again. Instead of self medicating, I now live a healthy contended and happy life. I have a future." "The Freedom Programme is now going into schools to give young girls information which could save their lives." Kelly Mattison Guardian 2009.
Suitable for men who want to improve their behaviour, this title presents a programme that includes information about the effects of domestic abuse on children and about how to recognise an abuser.
I have produced this manual in response to requests from hundreds of practitioners who have asked for a different approach to working with men who use violence against women. I am Pat Craven a former probation officer who ran perpetrator programmes for Merseyside Probation Service in the UK between 1996 and 1998. I concluded that the programmes could have been much more successful if they were run in a different style and by a different agency which was not subjected to the same constraints as a statutory body. This manual provides detailed instructions which are simple and easy to follow. This programme is aimed at men who have volunteered to attend and many of whom have never come to the attention of authorities.
Baby Bear lives in a home with the Big Bears, and loves to chase butterflies and make mud pies - they make Baby Bear's tummy fill with sunshine. Then, one night, Baby Bear hears a big storm downstairs in the house and in the morning, Baby Bear's tummy starts to feel grey and rainy. How will such a small bear cope with these big new feelings? This sensitive, charming storybook is written to help children who have lived with violence at home to begin to explore and name their feelings. Accompanied by notes for adults on how to use each page of the story to start conversations, it also features fun games and activities to help to understand and express difficult emotions. It will be a useful book for social workers, counsellors, domestic violence workers and all grown-ups working with children.
Counselling Survivors of Domestic Abuse explains how counsellors can facilitate recovery from domestic abuse within a secure, supportive therapeutic relationship. There has been growing awareness in recent years of the impact and consequences of domestic abuse, especially the relationship between domestic abuse and mental health. To appreciate the nature of trauma caused by domestic abuse, professionals need to understand its complex nature and the psychobiological impact of repeated exposure to control and terror. This book examines the therapeutic techniques and specific challenges, such as secondary traumatic stress, faced by professionals when working with survivors of domestic abuse. The author stresses the importance of identifying domestic abuse so that it can be addressed in the therapeutic process to aid recovery, and explores issues such as safety and protection, the long-term effects of abuse and the importance of grieving to the restoration of hope. This book is essential reading for counsellors, therapists, social workers, mental health professionals, health care professionals including GPs and midwives, managers of refuges, legal professionals and all those working with survivors of domestic abuse.
How Hard Can It Be....?
Author: Pat Craven, Jacky Fleming
Publisher: Freedom Publishing (CA)
Men who have completed my two day weekend courses have thanked me for helping them to see themselves in a mirror. If you approach this workbook Home Study Course with an open mind and a genuine desire to change you too could benefit in this way. How hard can it be to treat the person you are supposed to love with respect and affection? This course workbook is a supplement for the book Living with the Dominator. You will need a copy of Living with the Dominator in order to use this book. The workbook is suitable for one to one work with abusers and for: All the abusers who have contacted me to ask for help. Any man who has completed a Freedom Programme for men and wants a refresher.
Why Does He Do That?
Author: Lundy Bancroft
A leading authority on abusive relationships offers women detailed guidelines on how to improve and survive an abusive relationship, discussing various types of abusive men, analyzing societal myths surrounding abuse, and answers questions about the warning signs of abuse, how to identify abusive behavior, how to know if one is in danger, and more. Reprint.
If only this book weren’t needed. If only men and women didn’t beat their partners. If only spouses didn’t cruelly manipulate and control. If only people didn’t bully elderly relatives . . . Most incidents go under the radar, and it is estimated that only around a third come to the attention of the police. This book goes right to the heart of the matter: the human heart. We see how to walk with sufferers and apply the Bible to everyday-life situations. We learn how to do ‘one anothering’ in our churches and communities. While offering practical help, the author focuses strongly on lasting solutions that are achieved only through God’s power.
Play or Be Played
Author: Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Got Game? It's a fact. Every woman needs game. Take Oprah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and Beyoncé Knowles. All three of these women have the one intangible quality that every mack, male or female, must possess: they all have game. In other words, they have intelligence, hustle, and common sense that they apply to every aspect of their lives -- especially in their relationships. Play or Be Played is an instruction manual for women who are tired of being played by men and who want to be players themselves. Though women may not want to play games, the truth is men often do. So women who hope to win in the game of love must first learn the rules. Bestselling author and true mack, Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed shares: ways to spot a scrub what it takes to get with a baller why men cheat how men really judge women the top three mistakes women make in relationships Street-smart and straightforward, Play or Be Played will help you get with a king without being a hoochie, groupie, or a chickenhead.
The Will to Change
Author: bell hooks
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
With the courage, honesty, and compassion that have made her one of America's most provocative authorities on modern culture, bell hooks takes on the interior lives of men and answers their most intimate questions about love. Everyone needs to love and be loved -- even men. In this groundbreaking book, bell hooks gets to the heart of the matter and shows men how to express the emotions that are a fundamental part of who they are -- whatever their age, ethnicity, or cultural persuasion. Written in response to the author's in-depth discussions with men who were inspired by her trilogy, All About Love, Salvation, and Communion, bell hooks's The Will to Change addresses maleness and masculinity in new and challenging ways. With trademark candor and fierce intelligence, hooks answers the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society. She believes men can find the way to spiritual unity by getting back in touch with the emotionally open part of themselves. Only through this liberation will they lay claim to the rich and rewarding inner lives that have historically been the exclusive province of women. Men can access these feelings by giving themselves permission to be vulnerable. As they grow more comfortable and start believing that it's okay to feel, to need, and to desire, they will thrive as equal partners in their intimate relationships. Whether they are straight or gay, black or white, The Will to Change helps men to reclaim the best part of themselves.
Out of Babylon
Author: Walter Brueggemann
Publisher: Abingdon Press
"One of the persistent questions for people of faith throughout history is how are we to live faithfully in the empires of the world? In Out of babylon, Walter Brueggemann, one of the best interpreters of the Hebrew Bible, takes a fresh look at the prophetic paradigm of exile and restoration in Babylon and the realism of balancing `resistance' and `accommodation' in Persia, examining characters like Daniel and Esther. He asks what those biblical precedents might mean for living within `American Empire,' prompting reflections and lessons for Christians who reside in the midst of the world's last remaining super-power." Jim Wallis, President of Sojourners and author of God's Politics and Rediscovering Values "If Left Behind eschatology and the politics of Christian Zionism represent the worst and least responsible in applying biblical texts to contemporary realities, to whom would we turn to find the best and most responsible? Surely we would turn to Walter Brueggemann, and this new book would provide a primer---not only in its material conclusions but also in its manner of reaching them. Brueggemann offers his signature biblical insight and writes with exceptional vigor." Brian McLaren, author of A New Kind of Christianity (brianmclaren.net) "Walter Brueggemann is stunningly brilliant here. Besides surveying most of the First Testament prophets to show the relationship of the contemporary Church to the metaphor of `Babylon,' this volume takes some surprising turns and gives us fresh directions. Out of Babylon is a must for All Christians!" Marva Dawn, author of Keeping the Sabbath Wholly, Being Well When We're lll, and In the Beginning GOD "This book drips with prophetic flavor and imagination. For decades, Brueggemann has been a gentle, steadfast voice in the wilderness---inviting cultural refugees, political misfits, and religious burnouts to set up camp and build a new world. In an age that is growing tired of militarism and materialism, here is a book that dares you not only to say NO to the empire but to say YES to another world. Let this book inspire you to look from a distance at Babylon as the falls and Wall Street as she falters and sing songs of deliverance and freedom, songs about the God who lifts up the lowly and casts the mighty from their thrones; these are the songs of Zion." Shane Claiborne, author, activist, and freelance troublemaker
"This book explores the decline in female involvement in technology and other discrimination related to the industry"--Provided by publisher.
Author: Riane Eisler
Publisher: Harper Collins
Riane Eisler shows us how history has consistently promoted the link between sex and violence—and how we can sever this link and move to a politics of partnership rather than domination in all our relations.